38, never had a serious girlfriend. Too late?

38(M). I spent the majority of my youth with very bad social anxiety, didn’t even open up enough to make a few friends until the end years of high school. I was always very concerned about what I was going to do for a career to the point where I didn’t even think about romantic relationships. I did date women here and there, but despite some heartbreak feelings, in hindsight I never took them very seriously. I genuinely don’t think I ever met anyone I wanted to spend most of my time with.

Anyways! Fast forward to now. I’m 38 and I’ve never had a true significant other. I’m starting to have a hard time relating to a lot of women my age because I don’t have kids or divorces or major breakups to speak of. I’ve got a good job, I’m a home owner, good looking and fit.

I don’t know how to meet women. I’m not a big drinker and seldom go out. Even when I do go out, I’m pretty awkward unless I really know someone. I don’t have many friends anymore, that scene has faded.

I took a week off from work and I’m feeling very bleak. Aside from a visit with a friend one night and a visit to my sister’s, I’ve been alone for days. Twice I’ve got to a local mall just to walk around and be near people. I don’t like being in this situation! I have tons of money saved because I’ve hardly done anything in my life (I want to but what’s the point alone.)

I also fear I’m overly independent. Maybe I’m wrong. (I know this is all over the place and not well written.) I literally have no idea what to do, I just know I don’t want my story to be over. I matter, I count as much as anyone. Am I too much of a red flag at this point?