Is it really all that weird for a guy to not even try to get laid on the first date? Got home from a date last night and after I dropped her off (after our first date), she texted me and said “well clearly you weren’t that into me you didn’t even try to get laid tonight”???

After being married (to what I thought was the love of my life) for 6 years, and together for 8, I’m new on the dating market and have been on dates with 4 different women. Clearly still re-learning the ropes here, and starting to think times have changed rapidly in the 8 years I was off the market.

On each first date, I never even try to escalate things further (even if I am attracted to them sexually). Just want to get to know them better, let them know I’m not a creep just trying to get in their pants, and that I’m looking for something long term.

Fast forward to last night, and take a girl out for our first date. Things are going well (at least I feel that they were), she was laughing a ton and seemed to be enjoying herself and I really enjoyed her company and felt strongly attracted to her. After we were done with dinner, I take her back to her apartment and said “hey had a great time tonight.. let’s do it again soon.” She then texts me later that night and reiterated she had a good time. I reply and said yep me too are you available this weekend? She said “wow yeah I wasn’t expecting a follow-up date you seemed like you weren’t attracted to me.” When I asked why she thought that, she said “well clearly you weren’t that into me you didn’t even try to get laid tonight”??? She then goes on to say it’s usually the girl that controls when the sex happens???

Now I feel like a total loser that should have been trying to get laid on first dates?!