Am I crazy?

I moved in with my boyfriend about a month ago. We have had some arguments and fights in the past but nothing like the arguments we’ve had since moving in. There are lots of different factors.

1. He decided to give up weed right before moving in. I still have been using marijuana but he asked me to stop because it’s so hard for him to be around, which I understand. However, I have still hit the pen a couple times and I’m trying to tell him I can’t just cold turkey. He started with being ok with me doing it when he’s not around. I did express to him that I wanted to stop. So now when I do try to smoke, he goes ballistic and says I need to provide him with actionable things to fix it.
2. He is struggling with his weight.
3. Starting a new job soon.
4. He just started seeing a therapist
5. I get overly emotional and sob.

We have had such intense fights. Most of them start by me bringing up something I’m feeling – whether I am feeling anxious, or even trying to discuss how I felt about the fight. He switches and becomes so negative.

He starts to say such mean things when he’s upset. “You clearly don’t care enough”

“You can’t handle difficult conversations or any level of feedback of what you did wrong”

“Only sorry until it’s too late” “You’re feelings aren’t genuine” “You disgust me” “Ive asked you to come up with actionable things At some point – you are blatantly choosing to not give a fuck and put in any effort” “One day I hope you can take credit for things and acknowledge these things but I won’t be around for that because I’m not gonna survive this” “I’m asking for help and I don’t get any” “You just wanna belittle me and make me feel like I am crazy” “You’re putting in no effort” “You can’t show me any ounce of actionable things when I ask you for them”