As a man i feel i have to do/give more and asking for reciprocation is unmanly, need lady pov

As a guy i hear from women about the “it’s bare minimum” thing and i agree with most of them like flowers, planing and picking her up for a date, taking care of her on her period etc are bare minimum things and i agree and do that happily i love pampering a lady without any motive and do my duty as a man

But on the other hand i feel a little appreciation and reciprocation is nice and maybe social media is clouding my judgement but i have led to believe it’s against the masculine nature to ask a woman to put effort because you will get called a feminine guy and women get the ick

Need a lady pov