Big butt makes getting to know people difficult

I know, boohoo, poor me. Don’t get me wrong. I love my body type and the attention I get for it. HOWEVER.

When I’m trying to have a conversation with a cute guy, it’s one thing to be talking for 30 mins-1 hour. Maybe start talking about the gym or what we find attractive in potential partners and he says something along the lines of, “I won’t lie, I love your figure,” or, “Your body is beautiful.”

It’s a completely different thing to be like, “That ass is crazy,” when we’re barely 5 minutes into a conversation.

I usually dress in very form fitting clothes. I have that gross voice in my head that tells me I need to cover up if I want men to be more respectful but… this is how I’ve always liked to dress in my adult life. And any man who automatically thinks it’s okay to speak to me in a vulgar way just because of the way I dress… is probably not a safety or consent focused partner to pursue, anyways. Also, let’s be honest, if I didn’t have the curves I have, crop top and fitted jeans or booty shorts wouldn’t be considered “revealing”.

Just curious if any women can relate and if y’all have any words of wisdom or encouragement?

And to the men reading, have y’all ever talked to a woman like this? Why and what were you hoping to get out of it?