Dating on Hinge ( Need advice from a man’s perspective) 35+

I’m 34 years old, have no children, educated, entrepreneur, and flight attendant. However, I don’t plan to continue as a flight attendant in the future because I want to have a family one day. I’ve been on Hinge for about three months and have only met one person due to my schedule with many missed connections. I know some may consider my job a red flag, but I think it’s unfair to judge someone before getting to know them.

Anyway…

I’ve noticed that many men, even those aged 35 to 39, struggle with maintaining a conversation. I’ve met a few older men who can hold a good conversation, but I’m not interested in being with someone 20+ years older than me since I want to have children.

It’s great to let things happen naturally when finding your person, but you also need to be intentional. Men can be fearful of approaching women today, and I understand that but theirs actually somewhat traditional women who prefer a man to approach. While I believe in allowing things to unfold naturally, let’s be honest, flight attendants are often sexualized and fetishized. I haven’t met anyone on a plane, and I want to continue that path.

For those mature men who are serious about finding a partner to settle down with and start a family, where do you usually go to meet potential partners? Do you prefer answering the hard questions or want to keep things surfaced? Do you realize when you are self-sabotaging a potential match? What are some of the fears you have when meeting women? Do you try to date out of your league and approach women you assume that are taken by looking at her? Give me some insight in your world. I can’t have male friends but I ask some of my colleagues questions but dating is different for pilots and…well the male FAs are not straight majority of the time so that doesn’t help me.

Lets keep the comments respectful, please. Thank you in advance for your honesty.