So, last Friday night I was walking around a museum, checking out some art and getting some steps in, and I saw this really cute girl and went up to her and gave her a compliment. We talked for a couple minutes and the vibe was quite good, so I asked if she’d be down to go to the museum cafe with me. She was, so we went and had a 30 minute convo where we exchanged a lot of stories then numbers. She said she’s moving away soon (but only 90 minutes away), but that “I wish we’d met sooner.” At this point she said she wanted to go see more art, and I asked if she could join (maybe a miscalculation in hindsight – end on a high note), but she said yes, and I even later explicitly asked if I was overstaying my welcome (because I’m trying hard to be more empathetic towards women when interacting with them, and I didn’t want to make her feel like she couldn’t escape me). She assured me I wasn’t. She said she really appreciated how I approached her, because as an introvert, “extroverts like you coming up to me” is how she meets people. I asked her if a lot of guys approach her like this, and she laughed and said, which I said was “surprising, because you’re really cute.” After about 15 minutes talking about art and find more common interests in book & tv series, I decided it’d be best to exit while ahead. I loosely suggested the idea of meeting up later that night for drinks, but she seemed to want to have some alone time before a busy weekend that night, so I just said let’s schedule something for next week.
As I was leaving the building, I texted her that it had started raining, and she thanked me for letting her know. I sent a text later that night expressing that I hoped she made it home safe & dry. She didn’t react to that message, but it wasn’t particularly prompting a reaction, so I went ahead and texted her the next morning asking if she’d down for a food & games date. She didn’t respond for 3 days, so I just sent a closure type of text expressing gratitude for her hanging with me in the museum, and that if she’d ever want to go out, she can hit me up.
This was one of the best irl interactions I’ve ever had with someone I just met, and it’s brutally disappointing she stopped responding after one message. I’m aware there’s nothing further I can do to reengage interest… I’ve texted without response the most I’d ever do. But fuck this hurts. I’ve gotten ghosted so many times in my life that I just expect it at this point. But usually when I’ve had the interactions that were so genuine and long like that one, I’d at least get a text letting me down easy or giving an excuse. To just be ghosted after having a really vulnerable hour long convo with a stranger who seemed by every metric to be reciprocating just really hurts. How do I move past what could’ve been here, and stop overanalyzing everything I did in the interaction and texting and wondering if things could’ve been different if I’d done small things different? Rn, I’m just perplexed and a little blindsided. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve hung out with a stranger for an hour after literally just meeting them, so it felt like a really rare connection to me, and I’m just confused how she could’ve just not valued it enough to even say “sorry, no thanks.”
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