He brought his girlfriend on our date

I (24F) and a guy I’ll call Ryan (26M) had gone on 4ish dates up to when he invited me to a concert. We hung out Sunday and he invited me to the concert at around 5pm that day. Then he bought the tickets Monday morning (he also texted me Sunday night confirming he was going to buy the tickets Monday). He buys the tickets and the concert is on Teusday at 7pm. (This is important context for the rest of the story).

He texts me Tuesday during the day saying that his friend and her boyfriend are also coming and theyre chill and then a little later tells me, I’ll call her Hailey, is coming. He texted me saying “Hailey will be coming and her and I are close” so I guess not directly saying it was his friend or his gf but I made the assumption it was his friend who probably also knew the couple that was coming.

Teusday 5:30 hits, we all meet at Canes and chill there for a little. I learn that Hailey doesnt know anyone there but I guess they all when to the same school, whatever. However, what really should have been a red flag for me is when a convo started about the boyfriend in the other couple said something about giving Hailey a reference for a job. Hailey then says “Im an independent woman, I dont need my BOYFRIENDS friend to give me a reference.”. Now in my defense, I thought maybe she misspoke and meant to say “Friends boyfriend” cause that technically was the boyfriend of a new friend that offered that. I also thought surely I could not have been invited to a date where my date also brought his gf.

Here was my next mistake, as we were leaving for the concert, he offered to drive me and Hailey and I said yes. The traffic was really terrible getting in. It took us like an hour and half to drive what should have been 30 minutes. I knew I was in a bad situation when Haily was getting all touchy in the car but it wasn’t quite so much I was convinced they were dating.

We got to the concert and Hailey wanted to check out merch and drinks while the others wanted to go find a place to sit. So I stuck with Hailey. After getting our drinks Hailey and I just sat together because we couldn’t find the others (I wonder now if this was on purpose). She brought something up that led me to ask how him and Ryan met and she said Hinge. She then ask how we met and said “through hinge too right”. Another huge red flag. I asked what her and Ryan were and she said he is her boyfriend. Im going to be honest this was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and my brain has already started blocking out all the details of this conversation to protect myself lmao. But she told me that Ryan had explained this whole situation to her this morning (9am is what she said exactly). He told her that me and him met on hinge but he said that we were only friends and that he let me know she’d be there. (Which yes he did but he DIDNT TELL ME WHO SHE WAS). Hailey also said that he had talked with the girlfriend in the other couple that came about this situation and she helped him sort out what to do (not sure if he exactly follower her suggestions tho). Anyway, Hailey explained that the relationship was really new. She said that is had just started Sunday….

Now if youre keeping up with this time-line, me and him hung out most of the day sunday. Like until 5pm. That means he jetted off to this girls place and secured her that night. Though this also means that he totally could have uninvited me. Like I said before, he didnt even but the tickets until monday morning. So he totally could have just said they were too expensive now or he didn’t want to go anymore and i would have been perfectly content. But instead he choose to put me through a humiliation ritual.

Hailey also said “this is a really serious relationship even tho its only been a few days”. She was empathetic with me tho cause she was under the impression I knew this was the situation before I showed up. She also said “I can’t imagine how angry you are right now” but I was in so much shock I told her I wasnt angry which I wasnt, until the concert actually started. I had to excuse myself a few times saying I needed the bathroom but I actually felt like I could fall into psychosis from the restraint I had to have that entire time.

I left my bag in his car with all my keys in it and I didnt want to make a whole scene so i stayed all 3 hours of that concert. I really wanted to enjoy my time but it was hard with all the PDA coming from the two couples I was now with. I was seriously 5th wheeling a damn concert.

Anyway I just kept quiet during the qmwhole concert and kind of gave him the silent treatment the whole way home and would only engage in convo with Hailey. The traffic was also terrible on the way out and im pretty sure it took us two and a half hours to leave. I said thanks and got into my car as fast as I could. Once I got home I sent him a text telling him he should have never put me in this position and how stupid he was.

I really think ive been humbled by this experience and it was definitely a wake up call to stop using dating apps. Im not sure how I exited this situation without having a full on mental breakdown but my ego is rock bottom right now.

Sorry it’s long but really the TLDR is that I was invited to a concert date and my ‘date’ brought his new girlfriend.