A guy casually admitted to me today that he had height surgery to gain 5cm in height. I am unsure how to feel about this. On the other hand, good for him. That said, I got a vibe that he was still insecure about his height. It was a lot of talk about how women usually don’t go out with him bc of the height. The height doesn’t bother me, but the insecurity is annoying.
For reference, he was 170cm and I’m 160cm. I don’t consider height in dating, unless someone is like a head shorter than me or too tall so over 190cm or something crazy.
What do my fellow girls here think? How about men? Please guide me…
EDIT: Okay, I am going to mention a few things as the conversation is heated. First, I don’t care about a guy’s height. I already mentioned it, I thought I’d repeat it just in case. That said, it’s the insecure comments that really put me off.
Second, no, I don’t think height surgery is the same as getting botox, losing weight or putting on makeup. I don’t generally care if a man gets botox, a nose job, skincare procedures, whatever. If it makes him feel better, I am all for it. I hated my double chin after I lost weight myself, and got it sucked out; and wouldn’t mind a guy who did the same. I think the best comparison is comparing the height surgery to a BBL (which is more popular among women). Both are very risky, and can have detrimental consequences to one’s mobility and health. And getting a risky surgery to fix something like being 5’6, 5’7, a flat bum or whatever is insane to me. I am not sure that a person who is willing to risk his mobility for a few extra inches is the right guy for me. For the record, I’d feel the same way about him if instead of the height surgery he got a BBL instead. Yes, the bum probably looks great, but it’s not worth potentially dying or having lasting consequences.
EDIT: Guys, why is it so hard to understand that I was very turned off by the comments he made about himself and women, and this just killed the attraction for me? It can happen. How you act is literally probably the most important thing about dating. More important than any of the superficial stuff.
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