I keep attracting toxic women. What can I do?

My mother was totally nuts. Demanding, irrational, unreasonable, total psycho, extremely emotional. She was a gorgeous woman when she was younger and the eldest of 4 kids. So she was extremely authoritative and narcissistic. Nobody was allowed to question her. Do that and expierence the wrath of mom. . . My dad was a weak spineless pushover who enabled her by always putting her needs before his and he had zero boundaries with her. In hindsight, he should have left my mom, but he was trauma bonded. I have become my dad. I’ve also suffered harsh exclusion as a kid so I have deep abandonment issues and anxious attachment. I have a long history of trauma bonding with narcissists/BPD and emotionally unstable/immature partners. They are highly addictive and they do a toll on me. The women are usually drop dead gorgeous, extremely sexually adventurous and intense, but their lives are chaotic and they do nothing but damage. I have in therapy for 2.5 years and I have had close to 100 session. Therapy doesn’t work. I’ve tried everything. Trauma bonding with toxic and dysfunctional women is better than being alone. I can’t stand loneliness and rejection.

What can I do?