I thought we were close. I bought concert tickets, and he brought another girl

So I’ve been on this subreddit for a bit, and I wanted to share a story that’s been sitting with me for a while mostly to get it off my chest, but also to understand if others have experienced something similar

There’s this guy I’ve known since we were kids. We lived in the same apartment and just naturally grew close over the years. We were never officially dating I’ve never been into the traditional dating scene, but we were tight. We’d hang out all the time, occasionally, it was this deep comfort of just being around each other. A very low standard of situationship, I guess?

As we got older, he started branching out, meeting new people in the city, joining new circles. One group in particular started to bother me the “cool” crowd: very flashy, rich, cliquey types. I’ve always been more grounded, connected, and active in my own circles. I’m social, I know everyone, but I stay away from the drama and superficial stuff.

He played cricket, so he was often busy and kind of outside the regular party scene. But then slowly, I saw him getting more involved with this group. I didn’t say much at first, but deep down I hated the idea of him getting wrapped up in that lifestyle.

Then one day, we were hanging out and he asked me about a girl from that group like if I knew her. I was thrown off. I knew where this was going.

Fast forward a bit: i came back from uni for break & I found out a favorite artist of mine was performing in our city. I messaged him saying, “Let’s go!” He agreed great! He said I should book the tickets. And like a total clown, I did. I figured he’d at least cover the drinks, but nope he said, “Nah, all you.” That stung a little. Usually when I go out with someone, they at least offer to split. He was a good friend so I didn’t mind but petty things like this have always been off – he would pay for a dinner then go oh it was a bit much atleast could have split??????

I let it go. Got ready, excited. Only to show up and find out… he brought a girl with him. Not a random girl, but apparently his “childhood friend.” She was sweet, brought another friend, and everything seemed chill. But in my head, I thought it was going to be our night. I felt weirdly third-wheeled on a plan I initiated, and paid for.

Worse, he barely spoke to me the entire night. He was cold, distracted. I finally pulled him aside to talk because I was so uncomfortable and he was just… absent. Emotionally, mentally, like he wasn’t even there. And all he could talk about was needing to drop off another girl yes, one of the girls from that rich, cliquey group.

That was it for me. I left, went home, bawled my eyes out, and blocked him. I’ve never looked back.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, or if I just expected too much. But I’m someone who’s super selective about who I give my time and energy to. I’m nice, not clingy, not demanding just someone who expects a bit of respect when I show up for people. And this felt like a slap in the face.

We’ve had our on and off multiple different times, and he’s been the same guy who said “you’re everything I wish I had – smart, pretty, ambitious” all that bs and then this happens. Life’s funny Would love to hear if anyone else has gone through something like this, or how you’d have handled it.