I wanna leave the situation I’m in but things just got interesting

I M28 got out of a toxic 3yr relationship in October (the kind that involved cheating and suicidal threats). I since had flings and what not till I met this girl in March and we hit it off right away. I did tell her that I wasn’t fully healed but she was adamant and wanted us to give it a shot nonetheless. Anyways, things had been going well and I was under the impression that she wasn’t healing from her last relationship which lasted 3 months about a year ago. We talked about it and it seemed all good on her end.

Over the weekend we went to a popular club and she bumped into her ex, she stormed out of the place and began to cry and stuff. I tried to get her to talk and she didn’t say much (this girl is talkative and knows no bounds to her yapping and I love that about her bc I’m more reserved, so a good talker balances it out). Anyways, after applying pressure she finally told me that was her ex and then told me that she blocked him from everything so why is he here? And I was like well this is a public place, we live In same city, it’s not exactly wild to bump into him.

After that, my whole unhealed side kicked in and I can’t get that situation out of my head and the selfish hurt side of me that was cheated on feels like she’s not over him, although she reassured me that she is over him.

Due to all of this tho, although I like her a lot, I was planning on having a constructive conversation with her that honestly could lead to us ending bc I’m not healed and bc of that, this is affecting me a lot more than it should, and that’s unfair to her, she deserves better. But the problem is her company called up an impromptu meeting and she got laid off. My instinct to be supportive kicked in and I picked up breakfast for her and stuff and have offered to be there for her and she’s taking me up on it. The thing is I don’t mind being there for her, but I feel like I’m making her fall for me even more when I know I have a constructive conversation I want to have with her that may lead to us ending. She legit started crying and told me she likes me so much and I’m so considerate for dedicating today to her given she’s going through a lot. Idk what to do or how long to wait to eventually bring it up. I feel like the longer I wait, the more she falls for me bc this is the kind of stuff I do, I know how to be there when people are down, but idk where to go from here.

Any advice or suggestion would be appreciated. Thank you