Is it wrong that I’m now super specific about what I *think* I want?

I’m a 32F, recently divorced and have always dated guys 3-5 years older than me, with the exception of my latest husband.

I’ve always earned 2-3x more than my partners given my field of work, and I never cared about gender roles in marriage (provider vs nurturer) until my most recent marriage of 5 years with a 33M.

He went from having his mom take care of him to expecting me to do the same (beyond what I think a wife should have to do, especially if she’s also the main financial provider).

This is my second divorce. I initiated both (the first marriage lasted 6 months, I was 24 and he was 32, and divorce was faster than annulment). Although I was younger than both my exes, I still had to pay them in the divorce settlement.

Is it wrong that I only want to date men (I’m over marriage) that’s 45+, previously married (not currently married -_-), already with children (over the age of 6), and would like to keep our finances separate?

I might want children someday (I froze my eggs), but would hire a surrogate and I don’t want to get married again.