TikTok has rotted my brain

I think dating coaches like shera seven and thewizardliz have ruined dating for so many women.

I go to a big party college so dating is hard enough but now every friend I go to for advice and every TikTok I see is an echo chamber of “he’s just not that into you”, “I don’t chase I attract”, “never go 50/50”.

I think while there may be some good points to take away from all this, most of it seems so counterproductive.

My problem with “I don’t chase I attract” is that if you don’t go for someone you are interested in, your options are only limited to people that come up to you. Emma Chamberlain has a great podcast episode out about this. And also, how will the people you want know to come up to you if you’re not showing interest too?

I’ve been thinking about this because I (19F) am really interested in this guy I met towards the end of freshman year of college, we’ve been texting all summer but most of it was him initiating the conversation (I’d say 8/10 times). I’m moving back in next week and we haven’t talked in two weeks now, can’t help but think it’s because I didn’t show enough interest or he might be talking to some other girl.

TLDR: what are your thoughts on “I don’t chase, I attract.”