Visited a man I met online — his behavior became cold and controlling the moment I arrived. Still unsettled.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for advice or just perspective. I’m still processing this and not sure if I’m overreacting, but my gut tells me something about this whole experience wasn’t right.

I’m a 28-year-old woman and met a man (47M, a doctor living in Switzerland) through a serious dating platform. He seemed honest and respectful during our chats. Eventually, he invited me to visit him at his home.

The moment we arrived at his place, his behavior shifted. He became cold, avoidant, and verbally aggressive — as if being in his own space gave him a sense of control. The tone of the visit changed completely.

At one point, he looked at me and said:

“You don’t look like a teenager.”

That comment felt inappropriate and unsettling. Earlier, he had also made a bizarre comparison — saying some women had left their safe lives to join ISIS “just for a man,” and implying that relocating to Switzerland would be a much smaller compromise.

Shortly after, he insisted I buy a train ticket and leave immediately. I wasn’t physically threatened, but I felt shocked, humiliated, and emotionally manipulated. I left the same day. I felt like I couldn’t express myself freely in his home because anything I said could have triggered him and escalated the situation.

I’m now back home in Germany and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m not in danger, but I documented everything with the local police just in case. He has a child in another country (whom he rarely visits), and he seems to be obsessed with very young, foreign women — which makes me wonder if someone more vulnerable could get seriously hurt.

There’s no “crime” here, but I can’t shake how wrong it felt. Would you report this in Switzerland too, or just move on? Am I overreacting?

Thanks for reading — any insight would mean a lot.