why is online dating so cruel?

As a M26, I have found my experience on the apps to be dreadful.

I get ghosted, unmatched, dry responses, straight up insults, cancel plans last minute, straight up not show up even when they agree. even when i get the convo off the app it ends up fizzling away or i just getting ignored.

I try to be genuine and i approach dating with the intention of making a real connection. I am not ugly by any means. I would say i’m above average. I’m tall 6’2, i’m fit, i take care of my body and my appearance, my pictures are varied and good quality. When i text im not boring to talk to and i know how to flirt.

But, I only seem to get 2-3 matches a week and they always end up going no where. What am i doing wrong? this makes me so frustrated and just further pushes me away from wanting to be emotionally open and searching for a real connection.

is this experience uncommon?